The Mission of Motherhood

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With Mother’s Day approaching, I would like to take some time to write about the precious and powerful mission of motherhood. A day in the life of a mother can be busy and bustling. The task of motherhood is a high calling but sadly many are undervaluing the value of this great status. There is an intrinsic value in motherhood because it is something God designed. This makes it a status of great worth. If you are a mum, you should prize this calling and opportunity. Continue reading The Mission of Motherhood

Relating to your Parents

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It is always sad to hear of those who are orphans. You hear of those who have been abandoned or because of a pressure the parents cannot handle, the child becomes an orphan. It is sad hearing of those children who became orphans because they lost their parents due to death or some form of separation that the parents could not prevent. Our hearts go out for those who do not have parents. Continue reading Relating to your Parents

Recommended Reading (3 August 2015)

Recommended Reading

 

 

SOME THOUGHTS ON LIFE – WHAT WE ARE AND WHAT WE WERE By Kevin DeYoung

Kevin DeYoung asks his readers a number of thought provoking and confronting questions. This post is written in a way that really should get us thinking on issues of human life. He starts off by asking, “What shall we call the unborn in the womb? If the entity is a living thing, is it not a life? If your person began as a single cell, how can that fertilized egg be something other than a human being? Isn’t it more accurate to say you were an embryo than that you simply came from one?” Read More Continue reading Recommended Reading (3 August 2015)

The Roles in Marriage: Husbands

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What does the Lord require of a husband?

Husbands are to make sure that they are fulfilling their role in leading their wives with love. Husbands are to love their wives just as Christ loves the church (). The word for love goes beyond romantic affection. This word has to do with an unconditional loyalty and commitment – a love that keeps on loving. This kind of love is a picture of Christ’s love for His church (). What does this love look like?

A Sacrificial Love
It is not enough for a man to say, “I love you” to his wife with mere words. It needs to go beyond that. How did Christ express His love for the church? He “gave Himself for her” (). This was the greatest demonstration of love (). How do we know that Christ loves the church? He died for her. If the husband is going to love his wife, he needs to die to self. Life is not about his agenda, his priorities, his ambitions or his goals. He is to lead with a love towards  his wife that will be sacrificial. He must even be prepared to give up his actual life for her. That is sacrificial love!

A Sanctifying Love
We know Christ loves His church, because He not only was a sacrifice for her but He also sanctifies her. How is this done? By means of spiritual nurturing (). As the Lord Jesus Christ is concerned for the purity, integrity and holiness of His bride, the husband is to display a sanctifying love for his bride. He will make sure that he is assisting her in holiness. He will be concerned that she conducts her Continue reading The Roles in Marriage: Husbands

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.

26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,

Being a Family to the Glory of God

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The family is an institution ordained by God. In fact, it is the oldest of any earthly institution and therefore is at the foundation of society. Without the family unit, society will fall. God designed the family for His glory and for our benefit.

The biblical blueprint of a family will be different to the norm of the world (which is continually corrupting the family unit) and at times will be openly criticised. However, the Lord is clear concerning what He intends in a family. Every member has a specific role to play that reflects a God glorifying home. Of course, each member of a family is equal in their worth and value to God. All of them have been created in the image of God () and all have and will continue to be used of God in proclaiming the gospel. All members are equal in this sense, however, in God’s design they have all been given different roles. We are briefly going to introduce these roles, and later in the future will return to these individually and look at them a bit closer.

A Word to the Wives
In a family that glorifies God, what is the wife’s role? simply says, “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” The wife’s submission to her husband is a reflection of her submission to the Lord (see ). Stated in the simplest way: the wife is to willingly submit to her husband as the church submits to Christ.  

A Word to the Husbands
What about the husbands? They are commanded, “love your wives, and do not be harsh with them” (). Do they get off easy? No, because 8 reveals what this love looks like. It is the very love our Lord displayed towards to His church. A godly husband will love his wife with a sacrificial and sanctifying love that points to Christ. A Word to the Children If the Lord blesses a couple with children, it is required of their young ones to, “obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord” (). This means they are to do what they are told and respect those who raise them.

A Word to the Fathers
Father’s are commanded to “not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged” (). The father is not to be harsh, but to skillfully and consistently raise their children in the “discipline and instruction of the Lord” ().

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27 So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.

21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Children and Discipline

I want to thank again all those who have responded to our request for blog topics. Here is a response to a question we were asked. The question: “What are the implications of this verse?” Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Great question! And this is very topical in Melbourne and Australia generally at the moment. The discipline of children, particularly the question of smacking children, has been raised again and again. Recently a paediatrician in Melbourne called, once again, for smacking children to be outlawed. Emotions run high when this topic is raised, because we all think differently, and our children’s upbringing is very important to us.

Psychologists rightly point out to us how incredibly Continue reading Children and Discipline

Train up a child in the way he should go;
even when he is old he will not depart from it.

Family Before Ministry

The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? ( ESV) [Emphasis mine.]

It is a core quality of a person who desires to oversee the church of God to be able to manage his own household well. Paul’s point is that if you cannot manage your own household, then how will you manage the household of God? The implication of this is simple. For anyone who wishes to be a minister, family must come first.

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3:1 The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil.

A *Father’s Day Tribute

At a church service our pastor asked three men to give testimony to the influence of their fathers in their lives. All three men gave glowing accounts of the many ways in which their fathers had shaped their lives, of the importance of their father’s example and the many memories they had of their Christian influence.

But the thing that struck me most was the fact that two of these men expressed deep regret that they had not fully communicated their appreciation to their fathers who has since passed away. The things these men had to say moved me very much. There they were – so appreciative of their Dads, but feeling great remorse that they were unable to tell them.

I did not want to find myself in their shoes.

So, I wrote this letter to my father who lived in Canada.

Dear Dad 

You are probably unaware of how often I think of you. I suppose a day seldom goes by that I don’t do so. When a problem comes up I want to call you and ask for advice; you are always so helpful and seem to know just what to do. Or, perhaps I just want your opinion on something. You always bring a fresh perspective to any question. I can even recall that I’ve actually called you all the way from Australia in pursuit of a correct spelling. I could have asked someone else, but you have long known my poor spelling ability. Why would I want anyone else to know – and you never make me feel foolish or inadequate.

But the times I think of you most are when I ask myself, “What would Dad do in this or that situation?” I try to imagine how you would handle the major and minor challenges that come into my life. I can sometimes hear your advice without even having to ask. I have often thought I cannot go too far wrong if I do what I think you would do in any given circumstance.

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Letter to My Mom

This is a letter that I wrote to my mother a year after my father’s death in 1999. I wrote it during a flight from Vancouver, Canada to Melbourne, Australia following a short visit. I was impressed by how well my mother was coping since Father’s death and wanted to let her know how proud I was of her.

My mother passed away at the end of January this year, just a little over two months before her ninetieth birthday. When sorting out her stuff, I found this letter which I had written a decade earlier, tucked in her Bible. I read it at her memorial service as a eulogy to her.

I hope it encourages you to consider letting your mother (and father) know how much you love them before it is too late.

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