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What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage

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Excerpted from the Focus on the Family broadcast “Friendship or Flirtation: Danger Signs for Couples” featuring the Rev. Dave Carder.

19 Dangerous Behaviors

  1. Saving topics of conversation for your “special friend.”
  2. Sharing spousal difficulties with your friend (e.g., “My husband (or wife) never … “).
  3. Allowing the friend to share their relationship difficulties with you (e.g., “My boy/girlfriend always … “).
  4. Anticipating seeing this person more than your spouse.
  5. Comparing the friend and your spouse (“If only my spouse was nicer to me like s/he is … “). Continue reading

Divorce and “Blame”

My parents divorced when I was one year old.  I grew up without my father.  My wife’s parents divorced when she was eleven.  We have both been damaged greatly by divorce.  We hate divorce!

But I have to admit it: I must be a wimp; I have never preached on divorce.  In every congregation I have been in there have been people who are divorced.  And I fear I would upset them if I preached on the topic.  I’m not avoiding the topic, but I’m glad that it hasn’t come up so far in the books I have preached on.

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A Scriptural Formula For Holy Living

Aaron Armstrong, author of Awaiting a Savior: The Gospel, the New Creation, and the End of Poverty, posted this last week over at Blogging Theology. I found this personally helpful; perhaps you will also.

“In his book Living for God’s Glory, Joel Beeke offers several diagnostic questions based on 1 Corinthians that provide, as he calls it, a biblical formula for holy living before God and man. When contemplating a course of action, he suggests we test it with these questions: Continue reading