The family is an institution ordained by God. In fact, it is the oldest of any earthly institution and therefore is at the foundation of society. Without the family unit, society will fall. God designed the family for His glory and for our benefit.
The biblical blueprint of a family will be different to the norm of the world (which is continually corrupting the family unit) and at times will be openly criticised. However, the Lord is clear concerning what He intends in a family. Every member has a specific role to play that reflects a God glorifying home. Of course, each member of a family is equal in their worth and value to God. All of them have been created in the image of God () and all have and will continue to be used of God in proclaiming the gospel. All members are equal in this sense, however, in God’s design they have all been given different roles. We are briefly going to introduce these roles, and later in the future will return to these individually and look at them a bit closer.
A Word to the Wives
In a family that glorifies God, what is the wife’s role? simply says, “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.” The wife’s submission to her husband is a reflection of her submission to the Lord (see ). Stated in the simplest way: the wife is to willingly submit to her husband as the church submits to Christ.
A Word to the Husbands
What about the husbands? They are commanded, “love your wives, and do not be harsh with them” (). Do they get off easy? No, because 8 reveals what this love looks like. It is the very love our Lord displayed towards to His church. A godly husband will love his wife with a sacrificial and sanctifying love that points to Christ. A Word to the Children If the Lord blesses a couple with children, it is required of their young ones to, “obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord” (). This means they are to do what they are told and respect those who raise them.
A Word to the Fathers
Father’s are commanded to “not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged” (). The father is not to be harsh, but to skillfully and consistently raise their children in the “discipline and instruction of the Lord” ().
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27 So God created man in his own image,
in the image of God he created him;
male and female he created them.
18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
20 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the Lord.
21 Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.