Outcomes of Ignoring God’s Blueprint for Marriage


The biblical blueprint for marriage and family is being cast aside quickly. How should we respond as the people of God? We must be concerned with what God has said – even if it means that we are going to be mocked by the world and be considered a minority. It is not uncommon for people to make comment and note that it is unusual to see a husband and wife fulfilling their God given roles (; ) and to see children respecting and honoring their parents ().

The foundation of any society is the family. The moment the family unit begins to break up or cease to function the way God intends, it wont be long before there are ramifications in the family and ultimately in society. As you begin to destroy the authority structure and blueprint for a godly family, destruction comes to society. If you remove authority from a family, you remove authority from society. If authority is removed from society eventually you end up with anarchy. If there is no authority structure and everyone has an equality of function, then you will have a group of people without absolutes doing what they want.

Biblical marriage is under attack. These attacks undermine God’s intention for marriage. Consider the following examples. The practice of the sin of fornication is clearly against God’s design for sexual relations which are exclusive to marital union. (; ). God intended sex to be for the purpose of procreation (Gen. 1:28) and pleasure (Proverbs 5:18-19) exclusively within marital union. Furthermore, the increasing practice of adultery is another attack on marriage. Adultery violates the precious and exclusive union between the couple by sharing it with another person.

When marriage isn’t understood and affirmed in the light of God’s blueprint, there are sad and devastating outcomes. One horrid outcome (and an attack on marriage) is divorce. Our Lord Jesus Christ taught that “what therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (). Divorce not only causes problems within the relationship of the couple, but also extends to children, friends and it gets more complicated when the husband or wife remarries and there are even more children involved. Other sinful outcomes of ignoring God’s blueprint for marriage are abortiondelinquent children and homosexuality.

When God designed marriage, He designed marriage to be the arena in which the Christian displays the glory of God by adhering to His design. Such an action will result in benefits that extend beyond the marital union. Marriage is under attack. Christian, it is your duty to affirm it by practising it according to God’s word!

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body. 31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. 33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

6:1 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.

So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”

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Andrew Courtis

Andrew Courtis

ANDREW - Serves as Pastor of Hills Bible Church. I am married to Dianne and we have three children (Kate, Emma and Jack). I was born and raised in Melbourne, moved to Adelaide to undertake theological studies (BMin.), and have completed additional studies with the Australian College of Theology (MATh.). I have served in pastoral ministry in both Melbourne and Sydney and am a qualified school teacher. I am committed to expository preaching and making the word of God known and understood.