The Importance and Influence of a Godly Woman


A godly woman is a precious and priceless gift of God. A woman shapes the way people speak, behave and even influence others. What makes a woman influential in a lasting and God honouring way is not her position, education, personality or background. The basis of her lasting influence is her character ().  A godly woman is the best kind of woman to have around. says, “charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised”. A godly woman is a woman who knows God and fears Him. To fear God means to reverence and respect Him. If we could all grasp the importance of fearing God, this would sort out a lot of divisive quarrels. What kind of influence does a godly and God fearing woman have? A godly woman can influence the direction of an entire nation. Her influence begins in the home and then permeates throughout the life of the church and ultimately society. As a mother shapes the character of her children, they will grow up with an understanding and worldview that was primarily influenced by her. In this post we will observe three key areas in which a woman can have a powerful influence.

In the Home
A woman is granted a unique and influential role in the home. The home ought not to be viewed as a place of little or secondary importance (). Instead, the home ought to be viewed as a domain of joy, training and influence. If she is married, in the context of home life she has a particular role in relation to her own husband, namely submission (; ; ), respect (), helping () and being affectionate (). If she has children, her role (with her husband) in relation to her children is to love them () and instruct them the Lord ().

In the Church
A woman also has an influential role in the church. In a way that only a woman can, she is able to teach other women the word of God (). Also, when it comes to marriage and parenting, older women – seasoned in the word – are able to help the younger women with marital and parental advice (). Men are very limited in the depth in which they can instruct ladies on such matters. But a seasoned woman in the word is a powerful influence in such areas. Though a woman cannot fill a position of authority or leadership in the church ( and ), she still has an important role and influence in the church. In addition to the above-mentioned roles, she can sit on appropriate committees, teach in the appropriate contexts, give, serve, show hospitality, care for the afflicted and devote herself to godliness (cf. ). A godly woman in a church is a valued and precious gift with an untold influence!

In the World
When it comes to a woman’s influence in the world the sky is the limit. However, such an influence will never abandon who she is by God’s design and what pleases the Lord. The level of value of her influence in society is not defined by positions of prominence (though it may include that), but by her faithfulness. She may influence society by faithful prayer, excellent work, training up faithful children and/or serving overseas as a faithful missionary (eg. Amy Carmichael and Mary Slessor). Her actions may be private or prominent and yet can still have great influence (cf. Rahab and Esther).

The importance and influence of a godly woman is priceless. To suggest that the biblical teaching on the role of a woman is limiting and demeaning is a reflection of an ignorant understanding. Instead of being deceived by worldly movements that promise a false “liberation”, a godly woman will know who she is before God, and will respond by being what God requires of her. When this happens, it will influence the home, church and society for the glory of God.

10  An excellent wife who can find?
She is far more precious than jewels.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her,
and he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good, and not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
and works with willing hands.
14 She is like the ships of the merchant;
she brings her food from afar.
15 She rises while it is yet night
and provides food for her household
and portions for her maidens.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17 She dresses herself with strength
and makes her arms strong.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is profitable.
Her lamp does not go out at night.
19 She puts her hands to the distaff,
and her hands hold the spindle.
20 She opens her hand to the poor
and reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
for all her household are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes bed coverings for herself;
her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates
when he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers sashes to the merchant.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
27 She looks well to the ways of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
and let her works praise her in the gates.

30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

14:1 The wisest of women builds her house,
but folly with her own hands tears it down.

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

3:1 Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives,

33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.

18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,

and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,

20 My son, keep your father’s commandment,
and forsake not your mother’s teaching.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

3:1 The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church? He must not be a recent convert, or he may become puffed up with conceit and fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover, he must be well thought of by outsiders, so that he may not fall into disgrace, into a snare of the devil.

This is why I left you in Crete, so that you might put what remained into order, and appoint elders in every town as I directed you— if anyone is above reproach, the husband of one wife, and his children are believers and not open to the charge of debauchery or insubordination. For an overseer, as God’s steward, must be above reproach. He must not be arrogant or quick-tempered or a drunkard or violent or greedy for gain, but hospitable, a lover of good, self-controlled, upright, holy, and disciplined. He must hold firm to the trustworthy word as taught, so that he may be able to give instruction in sound doctrine and also to rebuke those who contradict it.

10 and having a reputation for good works: if she has brought up children, has shown hospitality, has washed the feet of the saints, has cared for the afflicted, and has devoted herself to every good work.

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Andrew Courtis

Andrew Courtis

ANDREW - Serves as Pastor of Hills Bible Church. I am married to Dianne and we have three children (Kate, Emma and Jack). I was born and raised in Melbourne, moved to Adelaide to undertake theological studies (BMin.), and have completed additional studies with the Australian College of Theology (MATh.). I have served in pastoral ministry in both Melbourne and Sydney and am a qualified school teacher. I am committed to expository preaching and making the word of God known and understood.