The Priorities of a Godly Father


The 7th September is Father’s Day here in Australia. I’m sure many dads will enjoy receiving cards, gifts and maybe celebratory meals from their children. No doubt for many dads their sock or chocolate supply will be replenished until Christmas. With this wonderful celebration going on over the weekend, I would like to take the time to reflect on the priorities of a godly father.

As the people of God, it is our privilege to be able to call the Creator of the universe Father. By calling God our Father reminds us that we are His children (), that He provides for us (), and that He loves us (). What a privilege!

By God’s design and grace, He has made it possible for men to be fathers. Being a dad is a great privilege. A Christian dad has the opportunity to reflect the gracious relationship God the Father has with His children. As an earthly father does this, he is entering into a role in which he is able to teach and instruct his children in the ways of the Lord.

What are the priorities of a father? I would like to share two priorities: Submission to Christ and Shepherding his Children.


I find it very interesting that we are told that Enoch “walked with God after he fathered Methuselah” (). It was as if this great responsibility of being a father awakened him to the priority of pleasing God. Being a father is a huge responsibility. Such a responsibility can only be carried effectively if a father is committed to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. A godly father is a man who knows the Lord Jesus Christ and submits himself to His authority. This act of submission forms and shapes the way the man will be a father. He will learn in the Scriptures what the Word teaches concerning character and conduct.


The second priority of a godly father is his commitment to shepherding his children. The Scriptures command, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” ().

One of the problems with preventing fathers from actively shepherding their children is the sin of being absent. Nathan Bingham insightfully writes,

“There’s a crime wave going on in your neighborhood—possibly even in your own home. It’s a crime wave that won’t make it to the nightly news, but not because it isn’t serious, for it scars generations and teaches them to commit the same crime.

Who are the criminals? Absent fathers.

I’m not talking about full-time absent fathers, those never home at all. I hope that’s a rarity. I’m talking about your average dad, the one who commits this crime most mornings, during dinner, and especially during the hour before little ones go to bed.

It’s a crime wave, and I’ve been an offender. You might be one too.

You’re guilty when you skip breakfast with the family to prepare for that early morning meeting, when you’re distant at the dinner table because you’re resolving an issue at work in a long email conversation on your smartphone, and when you forfeit a healthy family night-time ritual because you’ve got something important to do—like write a blog post.

I’ve succumb. Have you?”

With great clarity, Nathan goes on to write that fathers need to be intentional in committing to spend time with their children. Father’s have the privilege and the priority to invest in their children’s lives and to teach them the grand truths of God’s Word. This means that men need to give themselves to the priority of showing leadership in their homes by making sure that the Scriptures are being taught and that their children are being led in the way of the Lord. Dads, do you teach your children the Scriptures?

We need to take time thanking God for the gifts of father’s but we also need to pray for them. Society is attacking the biblical role the father’s leadership. Pray that Christian dads will stand tall in an age of compromise and lead their families with biblical conviction. Happy Father’s Day dads.

15 For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”

And because you are sons, God has sent the Spirit of his Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!”

23 In that day you will ask nothing of me. Truly, truly, I say to you, whatever you ask of the Father in my name, he will give it to you.

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places,

27 for the Father himself loves you, because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.

22 Enoch walked with God after he fathered Methuselah 300 years and had other sons and daughters.

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

A *Father’s Day Tribute

At a church service our pastor asked three men to give testimony to the influence of their fathers in their lives. All three men gave glowing accounts of the many ways in which their fathers had shaped their lives, of the importance of their father’s example and the many memories they had of their Christian influence.

But the thing that struck me most was the fact that two of these men expressed deep regret that they had not fully communicated their appreciation to their fathers who has since passed away. The things these men had to say moved me very much. There they were – so appreciative of their Dads, but feeling great remorse that they were unable to tell them.

I did not want to find myself in their shoes.

So, I wrote this letter to my father who lived in Canada.

Dear Dad 

You are probably unaware of how often I think of you. I suppose a day seldom goes by that I don’t do so. When a problem comes up I want to call you and ask for advice; you are always so helpful and seem to know just what to do. Or, perhaps I just want your opinion on something. You always bring a fresh perspective to any question. I can even recall that I’ve actually called you all the way from Australia in pursuit of a correct spelling. I could have asked someone else, but you have long known my poor spelling ability. Why would I want anyone else to know – and you never make me feel foolish or inadequate.

But the times I think of you most are when I ask myself, “What would Dad do in this or that situation?” I try to imagine how you would handle the major and minor challenges that come into my life. I can sometimes hear your advice without even having to ask. I have often thought I cannot go too far wrong if I do what I think you would do in any given circumstance.

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